Monday Musings: 10 Ways To Pass The Time When You’re Not Fine
Okay, before you start thinking I am not fine, I am in fact the most contented and happiest right now than I’ve ever been this year. Finally things make sense and have aligned after a trip into the woods. I feel light, clear, and just have this general sense of well-being. That being said, I know how it feels to be not fine or well. You know when someone asks “How are you doing?” and you blank out because you’re not quite sure if you should be honest or participate in the social contract where you’re not supposed to make a public mess of yourself? Yes, you know. And I’m here to tell you that it’s okay to not to be okay.
Sometimes, life deals us a bad hand and there’s no other cure for it but time. There’s no magical life hack, no productivity level, no pill that can make the pain and confusion and loneliness go by faster - there’s only time that needs to pass as you grieve the losses that you grieve. If you’re in that space right now, here’s what you can do to pass the time.
Immerse in a Good Book: Reading can be a wonderful escape. Whether it's a novel, a magazine, or a comic book, losing yourself in a story can be a soothing way to pass time and take your mind off things.
Listen to Music or Podcasts: Music has a way of touching souls, and a good podcast can feel like a conversation with a friend. Depending on your mood, you can choose something uplifting, calming, or entertaining.
Craft and Create: Engaging in a craft or creative activity like drawing, painting, knitting, or even coloring in an adult coloring book can be incredibly therapeutic. It’s a great way to express yourself and focus on something positive.
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a great way to process them. You don’t have to write anything profound; just letting your thoughts flow onto paper can be a relief.
Take a Walk: If you feel up to it, a short walk outside can do wonders. Fresh air, a bit of sunlight, and a change of scenery can help clear your mind.
Watch Comforting Shows or Movies: Sometimes, all you need is to curl up and watch your favorite show or a movie. It could be something funny, a nostalgic childhood favorite, or anything that feels familiar and soothing.
Simple Exercises or Yoga: Gentle physical activity like stretching, yoga, or simple exercises can help release endorphins, improving your mood and energy levels.
Try Relaxation Techniques: Techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can be helpful in calming your mind and body.
Connect with Loved Ones: A conversation with a friend or family member, even if it’s just a text or a phone call, can be a great comfort. Sometimes, sharing how you feel can lighten your load.
Do Nothing: It's okay to have moments where you do absolutely nothing. Lie down, stare at the ceiling, and just be. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to give yourself permission to rest and be unproductive.
Remember, it's perfectly normal to have days when you're not feeling your best. During these times, it's important to treat yourself with compassion and understanding. Allow yourself the space to rest and engage in activities that bring you comfort and peace. And importantly, if your feelings start to feel overwhelming or persistent, don't hesitate to reach out for professional support. Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being is not just important; it's essential. You're not alone in this journey, and acknowledging your need for self-care is a brave and important step towards feeling better.
