Monday Musings: What it means when I skip the eyebrow makeup
"You know we're true friends if you've seen me without kilay." I say this as a punchline in any random conversation, but I am deadly serious. Only my closest friends have seen me without eyebrows in person (bare eyebrows on the blog doesn't count! Because before/afters must be legit!). It means that I trust them not to give a shit about my face because they know me so well that how I look is ultimately inconsequential to our relationship.
We all wear masks. Some masks are thinner and more real in front of other people; some masks are so opaque that you can't tell who is underneath. Some masks become our core, overtime, and become part of our identity. I don't think that's a bad thing. I believe that it's necessary to wear different faces to cope with different types of situations and people. It's not being fake to show one facet of your personality at a time, it's just practical. And it's still you. Just not necessarily all of you in one go.
So really, don't worry about the times you feel like you're not being "true" to yourself. There's a difference between lying about who you are and merely showing a part of who you are.
I just read this to James and he pointed out that this keeps us from forming deep relationships with other people. My answer is that yes, my love, that is why I take my eyebrows off in front of those who matter to me.
And don't draw them back on.